Living self-realisation means you live your vision and not the ideas & dreams of others.
The biggest hurdle is shedding the lies of the past about yourself & getting okay in a different environment.
Especially what people have told you who had something to do with controlling you.
For some, these were explicitly narcissistic relatives.
The environment that broke you is not the environment that will help you in your healing process. Unless they have also set out on the road. But then you can only meet on the road & you have to enter uncertain waters with new people who are interested in your healing process.
This realisation can hurt and the journey can be scary. It's your choice whether you walk it. It is your responsibility to heal yourself. With the right environment.
It is your responsibility to jump over your shadow: away from self-mutilation to self-realisation.
I read a great & helpful quote that I translated and want to share with you:
Someone who has the power to destroy you & uses that power, why would you trust them to help you rebuild yourself?
This describes from a new perspective what I am saying, the environment that made you sick, is not the environment that will make you well again.
Especially if those around you have something to gain from keeping you small and insecure.
For narcissists, this is the best prerequisite for you to serve them your whole life, i.e. to admire them, which you translate in your world into ‘I do love him/her’.
That's not love, it's dependence wrapped up and disguised as ‘love’. Because love is what you are looking for.
You can love all of them because they are family too. That's not what I mean.
Do what you think is right. At the same time, if you want new, different results in your life and relationships, open yourself up to exploring new avenues.
YOU need to rebuild somewhere else, with someone else, in order to meet yourself with love & responsibility. This way they can't stop your self-realisation and you finally let go of ‘your guilt’ & ‘their guilt’.
You finally live (again)!
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Lovingly L
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