Forgiving is not giving in, but realising that it doesn't fit and that you can let go.
To equate forgiveness with giving in is a misunderstanding of our time.
A worldwide confusion.
The other person could also interpret it that way because it looks and feels similar from the outside.
That's exactly the point: from the inside it's something completely different. A different attitude. A certain inner stance.
Forgiveness means that you keep a safe distance, you remain on eye level and you focus on your time, your person, your values and let them and the experiences go accordingly.
Forgiveness gives freedom, love, patience, understanding, peace of mind and development.
I am committed to you setting your boundaries - without ‘playing games’.
I stand by the fact that you can honestly discuss your issues with your inner circle so that you feel heard.
I stand by the fact that we all have responsibilities and accommodations in our relationships.
I stand by the fact that sometimes we can communicate loud, but more importantly direct & clear.
I stand by the fact that if you are always interrupted, you don't have to bang on the table, you can just leave calmly, without losing your face.
I stand by the fact that you can serve as a mirror for yourself and others and do NOT have to put up with everything.
I do NOT stand by equating honesty with childish needs and you are the only most important person in the room.
I do NOT believe that the other person has to pull everything out of your nose (as we say in Germany) for you to actually say what you got to say. To find se yellow from se egg ... so to say.
I do NOT stand by the fact that you don't tell your most important people what exactly is going on inside you because of ‘stress’.
I do NOT stand by your claim that you communicate non-violently and that you want to get the other person to communicate violently at the first difficulty, so you see they have feelings.
I do NOT stand by the fact that "directly" means "violent" in communication.
I do NOT believe that the other person should be allowed to verbally persecute you and that you have no chance because they have slipped into the child ego.
If all this is an option for you?
I'm the right coach for you.
We serve clarity.
And we have a journey ahead of us.
Lovingly L
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