In some cases, the only solution is to go:
Distance.
Ignore.
Pause.
So that you can rebuild your mental health and inner stability.
So that your self-worth is increased again and you trust yourself like never before.
So that you believe in yourself and the beauty within you again without constantly questioning yourself.
Wrong priorities cost you your relationships!
Most people read this sentence and think that it doesn't apply to them. If everyone thinks this when they read it, they may be lulled into a sense of security, but it doesn't correspond to the reality that I have experienced in over 10 years of coaching and counselling.
Setting the wrong priorities, no matter how successful you are. Many people think - until they collapse - that everything can be saved with money and gifts.
In my experience, it can´t. Many don't want gifts (unless it's their 1st language of love, but then only with context).
Most people want exactly what they don't give to others, while others need it.
love
recognition
appreciation
respect
being heard
support
Once you have awoken from the Shiny world, it is time to save yourself and your family before you have to move out.
In my work, most people come when it's (almost) too late. Often the last chance still works, but sometimes it doesn't.
If you want to stop focussing on the wrong priorities, it's time to deal with and adopt the right ones. This is exactly what I work on in coaching.
This brings us to the 3rd point in this framework:
True luxury in relationships!
How do you define ‘luxury’?
I don´t mean luxury is only in professional relationships, at work.
I don't just mean private romantic relationships or those with your family.
I mean all relationships that are important to you and play a role in your life.
If you can't see that, I can't help you.
At the same time, I learnt that this is okay and that I am there for those who do see it.
This point has intensified the work with my clients this year and made it even more beautiful.
Goody-goody behaviour is not my style.
Neither extreme in one direction nor the other. I am in favour of simplicity.
At the same time: There are issues that are complex. Others are very clear & simple. Depending on who you're talking to and what you stand for.
The problem: Many people stand for everything or nothing.
The result is chaos and I coach to bring order.
I like to make life easier instead of harder.
I tolerate emotional chaos only temporarily for your growth.
Not to destroy yourself or others.
And it can soon transform back into emotional security.
That is the essence of growth.
Let's release it together in coaching.
Lovingly L
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